How to Hold Space Like a Coach
Feb 11, 2023Ever wonder what makes life coaching so impactful?
For high performance coaching, it's the questions we ask, the space we hold, and the care we have for our clients, so we can take them to that next greater level they desire in life.
With high performance coaching, we believe that by helping others think of the long term and create mindset, habit, routines, prospective, and personal development principals, it will allow them to architect their future, while still maintaining wellbeing and positive relationships.
Holding space means extending a pause for an extra few beats, so the other person can finish their thought or dive deeper in their train of thought. It's all about being comfortable with silence, and not rushing to ask another question or talk about yourself.
Here are 4 ideas to help in your relationships:
- Hold space of interest: This is genuine and authentic interest in the other person. This requires presence, curiosity, listening, asking thoughtful questions, and building trust and connection. We do this so we can learn about the other person's thoughts, desires, feelings, emotions, beliefs, dreams, etc.. This is a true indicator of a high-value relationship.
- Hold space of encouragement: encourage others to share and be who they really are, try what they want to go after, and encourage them when they make a mistake to get back up and try again.
- Hold space for solution searching: this is not finding a solution to a problem or conversation. Instead, hold space for people to explore, talk about what they are thinking of doing or how they would handle a problem or situation, or figure out a few options in how they would proceed in a situation. When you help people generate multiple options for how they would handle a situation, people develop more ownership over their life and can make better decisions.
- Hold space for appreciation and celebration: showing appreciation for others and celebrating them as a person and their wins really shows them how excited we are for them. Let that other person enjoy that win, and just sit in that moment so they can integrate it into their body.
So next time you're talking with someone, be intentional about your communication and how to hold space with others.
Hope that left you satisfied and smiling [that's what she said],
~Sara